Understanding Trust

Points to Ponder: January 17, 2018

I would like to share an incident with you. Yesterday someone was narrating their story where they trusted a close relative and that relative deceived him and used him for his benefit. The soul I was talking to was very hurt and repeatedly asked me if it was his fault to trust someone. He was in a state of shock and asked me if the values of trust and having a pure heart and believing in someone was wrong. This set me thinking deeply about the value of trust. I will start by first discussing about this quality of being naive which is usually described as having a pure heart. Lack of spiritual wisdom is sometimes considered to be innocence. However, innocence is not a state of being unaware or oblivious to spiritual truths. Innocence is a product of having a very elevated state of consciousness where you are fully aware of who is who and what is what but that awareness doesn’t stop you from having pure wishes and good feelings for the other because you are aware of the fundamental spiritual laws which state that the universe ensures that you get what you give, even when the other person does not directly give it back to you.

The trust that we invest people is based on body consciousness. If I say that I am simple and naive, do I go about trusting every person on the planet? No. I do it for certain people based on our conventional conditioning. For example, if I have grown up with the idea that you should trust your husband, then instead of perceiving that one as a soul, I look at that person as my husband and place my trust on that identity of him. And alongside, I also build my expectations in accordance with the conventional conditioning of what a husband should be like. But what I forget in this whole exercise is that the person in front is a soul. A soul is entitled to a unique mind, intellect, good sanskars and bad sanskars. Sanskars are personality traits unique to an individual and are a product of that soul’s journey. So, the soul, may or may not conform to my expectations of the role in which I see him. And when it is so, I feel deceived. But what I need to understand is that it is not the person but my own expectations that deceived me.

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